Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Can Your Relationship Handle IKEA?

That was the headline in the Personal Journal section of the Wall Street Journal last week.  And I can see where the strain of remodeling your kitchen or living room is put under more pressure as you and your mate/partner try to agree on home furnishing choices.

According to one of the Journal's experts, "The store literally becomes a map of a relationship nightmare.  Walking through the kitchens brings up touchy subjects, like who does most of the cooking.  Then you get to the children's section, which opens up another set of issues.  And that's before you've even tried assembling anything."

Knowing that Kevin and I will be making changes to our new home once the purchase is complete, I immediately thought that this wouldn't apply to us.  But, truthfully, we could easily slip into a disagreement....unless we take action.

The other expert in the article laid out some beautiful questions to explore in an effort to avoid an IKEA meltdown.

"Underneath, every discussion is really about how important am I to you?  How important is my comfort and happiness to you?  If I want this couch, and it's important to me, then why isn't it important enough to you?"

Now that I have read this article, I believe it's worth taking the time to explore these questions out loud before we start down the path of shopping for our new home.

What I ALSO know is that the Universe continues to set me up to be successful and this time, it's success in my relationship.  Had I not happened to read this article, it might have been a completely different experience.

Instead, I have an opportunity to develop a game plan, an opportunity to grow in my relationship with my husband and to thank the Universe for helping me be prepared.

So, today, I set the intention to step beyond the possibility of an IKEA meltdown moment and take the responsibility to talk about our vision BEFORE we step foot in a store.

"Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of overcoming it."  

"When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on."  

Affirmative Prayer:
Embracing the freedom of this moment, there is the recognition of the One Creative Intelligence.  It is goodness and joy that is the consciousness of Life.

Leaning into this goodness, I let go of any thoughts of separateness and sit with the knowing that this Creative Intelligence lives, moves and has Its being in me.  I am the place where Spirit shows up.  I am the place where Heaven touches Earth.

In this moment, I open to the full potential of who I am.  An awareness of how good my relationships can be starts to take shape and I welcome the personal growth that comes from honest conversation.  My relationship with my husband blossoms as I let go of complaining and focus on open and loving communication. And as I step into the life I am here to live, the right and perfect guidance from the Universe makes its way to me and I celebrate it.

Saying Yes to Life, I am filled with gratitude for the courage to take the next step in my relationships.  I give thanks for the joy that surrounds me as I take the guidance from Spirit and apply it to my life.  And I am grateful that I am being shaped into a person that I want to spend time with.

From this place of deep, deep thanks, I release my prayer to the One Divine Consciousness, knowing it is already done.  I am renewed and life is good.  And I let it be so.  And so it is.

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